Bonding with my mum does have its perks beyond the cared-for feeling. My poor mum who has had to bear endless frustration over why she had me trained as a lawyer when I insist on dressing like a hippie, got her way by tempting me with this lovely red silk-blend dress, which I obviously could not resist. Like the good daughter that I am... ahem... I actually wore the dress and boy! did I discover why the dress will NEVER go out of style!
What I did discover (though as more of an epiphany than eureka)? Men are generally insecure creatures who respond very well to visual stimulation. So it IS true what the self help manuals say. I always thought they were being simplistic and generalising a little too much. I know men who are sophisticated and intellectual and... I can count them on my hands. The folly I suppose, of working in the human rights realm is that you interact with men who have been trained by the profession, who cannot help but live by the values they espouse, but sadly they are but a small minority. Most men are just... men. I now understand why the what-men-think-about-besides-sex book has such high sales... well, incredibly high sales for a blank book.
How did I realise this? I wore a slinky dress. It is amazing how differently men treat you when you are in a dress. They open doors for you, they are kind and attentive, they carry your bags, etc. I guess if you look like you could wrestle them to the ground, they treat you like you could. Throw in a little bit of femininity and voila! I guess they feel less threatened or maybe... I read somewhere recently that men just want to be with someone who will treat them nicely, and the macho feminist looking girl (read as the girl who prefers comfortable practical dressing) just doesn't seem like the type.
So my current note to self? Buy more slinky dresses :)
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